Cut the Cord

Scout told me that he can’t shake the feeling that he has homework to do.  One of his friends agreed. Even though school is out, there is a black cloud following them that picks at them as they relax into summer. It’ s the feeling that they have homework waiting for them.

I smiled. Welcome to the adult world where there’s always grass that needs to be cut, laundry that needs to be washed, and people that need to be called.

But they don’t have any homework, just the nagging sensation that they should, so when I heard the phrase, “Cut the cord” today, it made me think of all the situations that we need to sever and let fly away.

  • Will there be enough money to pay for insurance, food, clothing, etc tomorrow?
  • What about the next day? And then the next?
  • What if someone in the family gets sick? Really sick?
  • How can I make sure Scout has all he needs to become an outstanding young man?
  • Will I be a mean old woman when I grow old, or a dottering old nutcase?

Okay…as you can see…I’m making great progress toward the nutcase end of the spectrum.

I like the image of cutting the cord and letting those worries float away. As the Bible points out…I don’t accomplish a thing by gnawing on those thoughts and roping them around me.

So I think, this week, I’ll find something to let go of each day.  Today it will be anger.

I’ll let go of the anger at the neighbor who keeps coming over and peering through my window to see if I’m home. I know she’s just lonely and wants to visit.

I’ll let go of the anger about people who stand in the middle of grocery aisles or doorways to visit. They’re probably so involved in their conversation, they don’t realize where they are.

I’ll let go of my ire about the neighbor’s dog who uses my yard as his latrine. (It’s not the dog’s fault, is it?)

Ahhhh. I like this cutting the cord stuff. I feel lighter already.

About Barb

I escaped from a hardscrabble farm in Oklahoma. I'm not sure why people think I have an accent. I miss the sunshine, but not the fried foods.
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3 Responses to Cut the Cord

  1. Les says:

    Cutting the cord on anger. That’s a heavy-duty cord. One of my favorite reading materials lately are books on Buddhism. Some by the Dalai Lama and some by others. Dealing with anger is common topic of discussion. The Dalai Lama’s take on anger is as follows, copied from my favorite book in the world, “The Art of Happiness,”

    “We cannot overcome anger and hatred simply by suppressing them. We need to actively cultivate the antidotes to hatred: patience and tolerance.”

    And furthermore…

    “When you are engaged in the practice of patience and tolerance, in reality, what is happening is you are engaged in a combat with hatred and anger. Since it is a situation of combat, you seek victory, but you also have to be prepared for the possibility of losing that battle. So while you are engaged in combat, you should not lose sight of the fact that in the process, you will confront many problems. You should have the ability to withstand these hardships. Someone who gains victory over hatred and anger through such an arduous process is a true hero.”

    And finally…

    “In one way, having an enemy is very bad. It disturbs our mental peace and destroys some of our good things. But if we look at it from another angle, only an enemy gives us the opportunity to practice patience. No one else provides us with the the opportunity for tolerance. Since we do not know the majority of the 5 billion human beings on this earth, therefore the majority of the people do not give us an opportunity to show tolerance or patience either. Only those people whom we know and who create problems for us really provide us with a good opportunity to practice tolerance and patience.”

    So, in conclusion, if we can manage it, we don’t look at someone who makes us angry as our enemies, but the anger itself. Being confronted with a situation that tries to insight us to be angry, It’s a great opportunity to be patient and tolerant and become a better person. Bravo, eh?


  2. I am now picturing Roxie in the early morning hours skulking behind bushes snapping photographs of dogs delivering packages! LOL What a sight in my mind!
    Cutting cords is very hard. Some of them seem to be made of steel and require a lot of work to sever them! I have several I need to get severed……one day…


  3. Roxie says:

    Here I thought you were going to cut the umbilical cord and let Scout move away from home. Wrong cord, obviously. Which then leads me to thinking about other missing chords and bungee cords and electrical cords . . .

    I like the cords you are cutting. Releasing your worries, anger, resentments and old griefs leaves you freer and freer. I see you gnawing your way out of a coccoon of no-longer needed cords and emerging to spread your beautiful wings. Ninja butterfly!

    Can you get photos of the dog on your lawn? Print up a few and take them to the neighbor in question. “I got a few shots of your dog – thought you might enjoy them!”


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