It was the wise and profound Roxie who posted the adage:
If you want to be heard, speak up. If you want to be seen, stand up. If you want to be appreciated, shut up.
I’ve been thinking about that for several days now.
It seems contrary to our present culture. With Facebook, Twitter, and—yes even millions of blogs, we can tell the world exactly when our mail has arrived, how long it’s taking for our pizza to be made, or…
and this is my favorite….
all the folks who Twitter “Goodnight” just before they go to bed.
I suppose this feeds our drive to be the center of the universe. All events orbit around our needs, interests, and self-promotion.
Perhaps that’s why Roxie’s adage is so powerful. To listen to another person and make them feel that they’ve truly been heard and appreciated is a treasure. One that is fading away.
So, I’m taking this challenge and hope you’ll join me. Just for one day, sincerely listen to another person without adding any of your own stories, or opinions. (This will be hard for me.)
Maybe we’ll do it to a family member. Maybe the checker at the grocery store. Perhaps it will be an affirming note at a stranger’s blog.
We’ll report back next week.
Maybe we’ll find that the best way to be appreciated is to cut some cords that bind us to ourselves?