“Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not.” ~Samuel Johnson
This experiment in choosing “flash-kindness” as Roxie so brilliantly labeled it, is netting unusual results (which I’ll talk about tomorrow).
But TONIGHT, I need to address a common thread running through all the comments: “the grumpy factor” as Les aptly named it.
One summer I offered to help an ailing man tend his plot in the community garden. I love the miracle of growing things and its healing abilities.
We were having a good time. I wasn’t prepared when the old guy leased another plot and promised the caretaker he’d also take over someone’s abandoned plot.
Yikes!! He didn’t talk with me about it. I should have told him I’d only help with one garden, but he’s old. I didn’t feel I could tell him I only signed on for one plot and drive away, leaving him to hoe rows dragging his oxygen bottle. I was tilling, weeding, and harvesting several gardens (in addition to my own).
After a hot afternoon, watering and picking his 50 (I kid you not) tomato plants (he felt it helped his cancer), I said to Scout, “Doing good deeds makes me cranky.”
“You must do a lot of good deeds,” he said. Ahhhh…the irritability of doing everyone else’s stuff instead of my own.
So….back to our topic—CHOICE. Sometimes our choice to help turns into more time/work/money than we expected. Sometimes it makes us stressed. No, I don’t think it negates the good deed we’re doing, but it does make a perfect opportunity for US to be on the receiving end of a kindness.
What do you do when this happens to you?