There is a gumpy little saying cruising the internet. It’s all over facebook, adorned with rainbows or kittens. To be a rebel, I’m attaching my saddle oxfords to it…or I would if I had any.
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.
These words of pseudo wisdom are often attributed to “deep-thinker” Lao Tzu. He didn’t say them. Nor did he write them in his 81 lessons in the Tao Teh Ching. Because they’re fictionally attributed to him, then one of my fictional characters from my books will add, “Whatta buncha New Age Bull-loney!”
I ran a little test on the meme.
When a friend recently posted this photo of these oxfords, it reminded me how I longed for a pair when I was young. All the cool kids had them. We couldn’t afford them. I’m not sure what I wore instead—probably something that resembled cement blocks—because a pair of shoes had to last the entire school year.
So re-living the past made me a little sad. That part is true.
But then…My motto is: It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. I went on a quest, looking for adult oxfords.
For only $105, I found a spiffy updatedd pair. They were beautiful—until I put them on.
- No arch support.
- Toes pinched together
- I was going to have to use shoe polish to keep them looking “spiffy.” Gaaak! Too much work.
- Too much discomfort to qualify for the the $105 “Bull-loney!” price.
Now…I’m not saying the shoes of the by-gone days were terrible…or if you loved your saddle oxfords you’re wonky. All that I’m asking is, could it be that the past wasn’t as bad or good as I remembered it? (Kind of like “first loves” who tend to be remembered more fondly than they really were).
So… I gave a boot-kick to little one liners like the one above, which imply that if you were simply more disciplined and made yourself think the right thoughts, then you wouldn’t be such a dipsy-doodle.
Where are the one-liners that say …
- You’re human.
- Sometimes you’re in the present.
- Sometimes you remember the past
- Sometimes you’re gonna gnaw on your bottom lip, thinking “what-ifs” about the future.
- Change happens.
- Forgive yourself.
- Love yourself.
- Go get a comfortable pair of shoes.